82 Guiding Lights to a Better Life

The following is more self-help. But I find myself checking this list every time I need some direction in life, writing or creativity.

  1. Ground your attention on yourself. Be conscious at every moment of what you are thinking, sensing, feeling, desiring, and doing.
  2. Always finish what you have begun.
  3. Whatever you are doing, do it as well as possible.
  4. Do not become attached to anything that can destroy you in the course of time.
  5. Develop your generosity ‒ but secretly.
  6. Treat everyone as if he or she was a close relative.
  7. Organize what you have disorganized.
  8. Learn to receive and give thanks for every gift.
  9. Stop defining yourself.
  10. Do not lie or steal, for you lie to yourself and steal from yourself.
  11. Help your neighbor, but do not make him dependent.
  12. Do not encourage others to imitate you.
  13. Make work plans and accomplish them.
  14. Do not take up too much space.
  15. Make no useless movements or sounds.
  16. If you lack faith, pretend to have it.
  17. Do not allow yourself to be impressed by strong personalities.
  18. Do not regard anyone or anything as your possession.
  19. Share fairly.
  20. Do not seduce.
  21. Sleep and eat only as much as necessary.
  22. Do not speak of your personal problems.
  23. Do not express judgment or criticism when you are ignorant of most of the factors involved.
  24. Do not establish useless friendships.
  25. Do not follow fashions.
  26. Do not sell yourself.
  27. Respect contracts you have signed.
  28. Be on time.
  29. Never envy the luck or success of anyone.
  30. Say no more than necessary.
  31. Do not think of the profits your work will engender.
  32. Never threaten anyone.
  33. Keep your promises.
  34. In any discussion, put yourself in the other person’s place.
  35. Admit that someone else may be superior to you.
  36. Do not eliminate, but transmute.
  37. Conquer your fears, for each of them represents a camouflaged desire.
  38. Help others to help themselves.
  39. Conquer your aversions and come closer to those who inspire rejection in you.
  40. Do not react to what others say about you, whether praise or blame.
  41. Transform your pride into dignity.
  42. Transform your anger into creativity.
  43. Transform your greed into respect for beauty.
  44. Transform your envy into admiration for the values of the other.
  45. Transform your hate into charity.
  46. Neither praise nor insult yourself.
  47. Regard what does not belong to you as if it did belong to you.
  48. Do not complain.
  49. Develop your imagination.
  50. Never give orders to gain the satisfaction of being obeyed.
  51. Pay for services performed for you.
  52. Do not proselytize your work or ideas.
  53. Do not try to make others feel for you emotions such as pity, admiration, sympathy, or complicity.
  54. Do not try to distinguish yourself by your appearance.
  55. Never contradict; instead, be silent.
  56. Do not contract debts; acquire and pay immediately.
  57. If you offend someone, ask his or her pardon; if you have offended a person publicly, apologize publicly.
  58. When you realize you have said something that is mistaken, do not persist in error through pride; instead, immediately retract it.
  59. Never defend your old ideas simply because you are the one who expressed them.
  60. Do not keep useless objects.
  61. Do not adorn yourself with exotic ideas.
  62. Do not have your photograph taken with famous people.
  63. Justify yourself to no one, and keep your own counsel.
  64. Never define yourself by what you possess.
  65. Never speak of yourself without considering that you might change.
  66. Accept that nothing belongs to you.
  67. When someone asks your opinion about something or someone, speak only of his or her qualities.
  68. When you become ill, regard your illness as your teacher, not as something to be hated.
  69. Look directly, and do not hide yourself.
  70. Do not forget your dead, but accord them a limited place and do not allow them to invade your life.
  71. Wherever you live, always find a space that you devote to the sacred.
  72. When you perform a service, make your effort inconspicuous.
  73. If you decide to work to help others, do it with pleasure.
  74. If you are hesitating between doing and not doing, take the risk of doing.
  75. Do not try to be everything to your spouse; accept that there are things that you cannot give him or her but which others can.
  76. When someone is speaking to an interested audience, do not contradict that person and steal his or her audience.
  77. Live on money you have earned.
  78. Never brag about amorous adventures.
  79. Never glorify your weaknesses.
  80. Never visit someone only to pass the time.
  81. Obtain things in order to share them.
  82. If you are meditating and a devil appears, make the devil meditate too.



Thoughts on a mind’s hunger: the drive of Writing

My mind tingled recently, telling me to pick an idea from the ether and bleed.

Though, bleeding is all I’ve been doing into my journal, I reckon this tingling wants me to start colouring in the blank page on FinalDraft instead. My predilection for the dark atmospheres of fantasy and science fictions has been substituted for writing about how my own life has been surprising me lately.

Though, if my regular thoughts are not preoccupied with storytelling then what’s the hunger driving me to write stories?

What’s my mind hungry for in order to keep on living? 

Hunger’s a survival function. A pain-alarm reminding one to ingest what’s necessary for living. ‘A running thread’ through things that a writer writes, can be defined by a writer’s hunger. Rod Serling, one of the greats of storytelling, says on his ‘hunger to be young again’,

Part of creativity, of course, is being able to have the capacity to convey that kind of hunger, that kind of nostalgia, that kind of bittersweet feeling – to those who have never had it.

If you think about all the stories he wrote for The Twilight Zone, I guess most of them have characters that are young at heart and the trouble that comes with it. I haven’t seen all of them.

In the same interview, he mentions how plot points are ‘concerns’ – could be considered concerns – which I find interesting when thinking about writing a story. It strips away another section of structure’s surface to highlight a character’s journey. That’s important when you’re thinking about story: don’t get caught up in terminology but emotion.

Maybe I’m hungry for feeling something new to my current state of being? Sounds like baloney.

I’m hungry to write without fatigue.

Maybe I just need to shut the fuck up and write whatever. I got a story for you. It’s about a boy on strings of glass. He’s head’s made of pine cones and his feet two bits of brass. Music chimes when he steps and birds peck at his neck. He rises early, as you could tell, so he’s the one waking neighbours as they scream, ‘Bloody Hell!’ There’s never a night he ponders his dilemma that he’s stuck here looking up at forever. So, he takes a hammer and smashes them strings and with a whistle, he’s back out there, free of all those nasty little things. He soars away on a glass board full of hope, to a better place without dreams, walls, colours and dope.


Thoughts on Story Origins

The writing process itself can reveal to you the elements of a story.

In a  pretty self-aware dream I recently had, I was navigating a stark, empty place where I knew that if I imagined hard enough then something would appear for me. It took the shape of a man but not. I couldn’t stay long enough to find out what it would be, but if I could’ve stayed and talked to it a while, I would’ve gone away to tell his story or use his feelings to imagine a story of my own.

The old timers say that the Dreamtime is where we were imagined from — fictions come real for the sake of experiencing life. I feel like writing something that feels so real, someone actually believes it like a psychotic fan believes his favourite soap opera starlets are real — Creepy!

Maybe when you immerse yourself in nothing but the art of life, the elements of a story comes real.


Thoughts on Thoughts

Thinking about your writing helps you to discern mistakes, while writing about writing, say in a journal, allows the process to reveal things to you. There’s actually something to be gained with these exercises, even though they’re a little odd.

That said, the girl I’m dating read through one of my notebooks today, it left her in a mood that I discerned quite quickly was to do with me. Then again, she did look like she had a sore gut, but instincts prevailed.

I coaxed out of her that she read a love letter I wrote to someone – after a sesh – and, well, she got funny about it. Who wouldn’t?!

I explained the notes I take are me practicing to get inside the head of someone else: a character following a certain line of emotion.  They stem from my real life so that the things that are real to me breathe life into my words for a better emotional response when read.

I read the letter out loud and thought that most of it was good except for the last dip before the climax. I learned that it’s good to bounce your writing off someone close to you, and it’s even better when they think it’s real… Well, maybe it was.